Giving up!

V S Naipaul once wrote, “The only lies for which we are truly punished are those we tell ourselves.1 

When we believe we know what is better for others, this is the risk we run into. No matter how extensive our life experience is - it is unique to us. It took me a while to understand this. So often, when people ask me to tell them 'what is better for them,' I falter. I can describe/recount what happened to me in similar circumstances, but how can I ever tell you what will happen to you in those circumstances? History may repeat itself, but our lives don't.  If only people could figure out a pattern to living and predict what would be - it would be humankind's greatest achievement and a tragedy. 

"To live with the conscious knowledge of the shadow of uncertainty, with the knowledge that disaster or tragedy could strike at any time; to be afraid and to know and acknowledge your fear, and still to live creatively and with unstinting love: that is to live with grace."

-- Peter Abrahams, The View From Coyaba, 1985 2

So no - I cannot guide you in your journey - it is one for you to take. I can only tell you what I saw while I traversed my path if and when we meet. But that is the beauty of life - is it not? You will see your own wonders, gather your own mementos, and that is what will make your life special and valuable [to you]. 

Date: 11th March, 2023